do I have good reasons for hating my stepdad?

I'm just gonna give te some info about him first before actually giving te the reasons:
so my mom's been dating this guy since I was really little and we used to get along great and he and my mom dated until I was 13 when he cheated on her and they broke up for a anno and a half until finally getting back together. Afterwards he and I got along great with each other again until we went on a family trip to Cabo for a few days when I was 14. On our very last night there I walked in on him and my mom making out in letto *shudders* after that night I just started to dislike him a little. Then me not liking him just got worse and worse when I was 15 when we moved into a new house that he and my mom built. After living with him for two years, I just started to notice this stuff
1. He sometimes crosses the line when talking about personal stuff

2. When it comes to buying stuff, he buys a bunch of random stuff that just takes up room and isn't really needed, especially since we don't have a lot of money lately

3. When it comes to the welfare of our animali like our two cats, little dog, and six chickens, he doesn't really give a shit (except for the dog, since he inherited her from his mom after she died) I mean, when mom and I found out that the chickens weren't really getting fed with the feed we bought for them and mentioned to my stepdad about it, he just laughed

4. He doesn't really give a crap about anyone's feelings

5. If he and I get into a fight, I'm always the one who has to apologize even though he started the fight (and my mom and sisters know this too but they make me anyway)

6. When I get really upset o annoyed, he doesn't respect it.

so what do te guys think? Do I have a good reason for not liking my stepdad o am I just too sensitive?
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it's perfectly usual for a daughter o son not to like his o her stepdad o mum with o without good o bad flaws it's perfectly normal and acceptable not to like him
starfire5555 posted più di un anno fa
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it's weird though because I Amore my stepmom like as if she was my own mother and I've known her for years and I've lived with her
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iluvllllll said:
yeah i guess. even tho if u dint, i think it would be perfectly normal. my parents are having a divorce and im pretty sure my dad's gonna get a new wife any time soon, and im already starting to hate that fuckin hoe, i know her, i hate her for interrupting my family, breaking it apart, leaving me a nd my brother with my mom, putting my mom in pain. every night i watch my mom cry, its unbearable, i feel like tearing that cagna apart. okay i need to stop tears are coming out. sry im just.....mad.
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posted più di un anno fa 
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oh my god, I'm so sorry! I can't imagine how that must feel, my parents only divorced when I was a couple months old. I really hope things get better for te
BB2010 posted più di un anno fa
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thanks :) feelin a whole lot better
iluvllllll posted più di un anno fa
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i know exactly how te feel in actually going to ITS birthday party today
Syd626 posted più di un anno fa
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that sucks:(
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chattycandy said:
te have a great reason to hate him.that guy needs get major help.
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sapherequeen said:
I can understand how te feel.

I had a similar stepfather not too long ago.

He started dating my mother when I was 10-years-old, and at first I thought he was hilarious. I liked him :)
But then, things started surfacing. He had a wife (now ex-wife) that he had separated from and two young sons. But then he started sleeping with my mother and eventually got her pregnant. Through out my mother's pregnancy and the birth of my sister he never told his wife o his sons about it. Until he and his wife got into a fight on his cell phone about something while we were driving to a restaurant and blurted it all out. His sons didn't find out until months later.

Then, he and I started getting into fights. At first, he started criticizing everything I did. If I left a dish in the sink, he'd snap at me to wash it. He would literally watch every sposta I took. One giorno when he came home, I said, "Hello" to him, and he snapped at me about why I didn't do a chore in response. It got to the point where my mother finally told him to knock it off. Then our fights began to get worse. He started swearing at me, and eventually I learned to swear back. He'd call me a "bitch", "pig", and that no one in this house needed me. I called him an "asshole", "pig", and brought up the fact that he cheated on his wife and had a child with another woman.

One night he came into my room and yelled at me about my Televisione being too loud. I tried to tell him I'll take care of it so he'd leave, but eventually I got frustrated. Then he started calling me names again, so I told him to get the f**k out of my room. He did, and I slammed the door behind him. So he came in and hit me in the head (but not hard, at least), and the arm. When my mother came to see what happened, he lied to her and told her that I told him if he didn't get out of my room, I'll knock the f**king door down.
She ended up screaming at us both.

Then came the night, around a anno ago, when we got into a very bad fight. He hit me in the back of the head, so I tried to leave the house. But then he held me against the door da my neck. I eventually kicked him in the stomach (He had surgery there not too long ago), and left the house. It was raining, I was sick, and I only had a T-shirt and shorts on. I eventually found this pottery negozio where an 18-year-old girl was working. She let me stay there until I reached my mother to tell her to come pick me up. The successivo giorno the girl and her boss went to children's services. So my sister and I were almost taken away.

Eventually, my mom broke up with him after he exploded on her (I really don't know the full story).

They've been broken up since. They were getting along for a little while, but one giorno he and my mother got into a disagreement on picking up Alyssa. So he came to our house and called my mother a "bitch" and a "piece of s**t" in front of my sister.

I don't think they've gotten along pretty well ever since.
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posted più di un anno fa 
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whoa, comparing your stepdad to mine, mine just seems like the nicest guy in the world. I'm really sorry, are te and your mom and sister okay now?
BB2010 posted più di un anno fa
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So far, we're fine. My sister sees her father on Sundays, and for now he's alright I guess. My mom pretty much flat out dislikes him now. I just wished she would have started disliking him a few years earlier than now, te know? Plus, I wouldn't give your stepdad that much credit. He does sound pretty bad...
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Lightning98 said:
i think te do, i mean what happened to te real dad first, if it was a bad reason te have an even better reason for hating him. also te should tell your mom about what he has done to te and remind her about the time he cheated on her.
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I think the problem was that my dad was an alcoholic o something, like I detto before, my parents divorced a few months after I was born. Also, my mom does know what he's done to me and my family. She complains about it to me and my sisters almost everyday. I don't even know why she keeps putting up with it and when I asked her why she's even with him, she told me it was a really rude domanda I'd also remind her of the time he cheated on her but that's pretty much all water under the bridge o whatev and if I bring it up I'll end up having a major fight with her
BB2010 posted più di un anno fa
bellasmommy99 said:
ciao I feel tHe same way about my stepdad, I can realte to all of your reasons. He sounds like a jerk. Just tell him straight up that es not your dad and he cant tell te what to do. But be prepared to deal with the consequences..... My stepdad and I dont even talk anymore........
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lmill187 said:
Yes! I hate my step dad too! He is exactly like your step dad but he is abusive likes to knock around me my sister and my mother! He hits us and all but my mum just won't leave him! My sister has recently ran away and we don't know where she is! She ran away cause my step dad is a cock face! :) So it is perfectly normal
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Makeupdiva said:
This is old but I have to say, I am glad that even though my parents separated, they never remarried. Me and my sister never had to deal with a step parent, which I am greatfull for. As for your problem, I think te have every right to not like the man, he seems like a jerk who has some really big issues, such as animal cruelty. I hope things have changed for you, since it has been a year.
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blueprincess02 said:
Well its natural to hate your step dad I mean if I had on I'll hate him too but maybe I think u are right I mean he should care about U if he wants to be a good father he should care i think u should explain to him what a father really does Give him a piece of your brain
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wesleeTporter said:
Hey. I know where your coming from. te pretty much described my moms husband (I dont even want to call him stepdad) the only reson I dont tell my mom he NEEDs to leav my life is becauses he makes her happy. We always fight and he dosnt give a d***. We fight all the time and he wants to be a fatherly figure but I will not alow.this a** whole to be my dad. But I feel.your resoning is lagit and I feel bad for you. I hope things get better for you. Maby things will be the way they used to be. I know its hard to believe it could happen. I dont believe it could happen for me


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Anonymous_28992 said:
All if these match up with my step dad to I also find him very creepy around my other siblings and hum and my on always arguing no matter what and when have no clue why she's still with him it gets on my nerves and I wish I ddnt live there...but my mom keeps telling me "but oh I don't know why youre so mean to him he's so nice to te and all te do is give him shit" well I dont know te try living without your dad your whole life only to see him once a anno while iving with a creep in the house that te od t even like and try listening to all this bill crap round the house 24/7...
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posted più di un anno fa 
CokeTheUmbreon said:
Personally, I think your stepdad's a son of a bitch. As for apologizing for the fights we had, if I were you, I wouldn't have apologized, even if I didn't start it.

I have reasons for hating some peeps, even tho they ain't good. Honestly, I wouldn't respect him if he didn't respect me. That's how I am towards any age o gender. If they didn't respect, they sure wouldn't give respect from me. Telling that motherfucker how I feel politely would be the last thing I do.

No offense to those that disagree, but I spoke honestly.

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