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When did te start being comfortable with yourself as a sexual person?

I know this is kind of an odd question, especially as there are many younger people here. But what spurs my domanda is the observation we have about younger people here-specifically in the US, where we do give very mixed messages about sexuality. For example, we' re all expected to look "hot" to some degree, yet there seems to be reluctance to own up to being sexually responsible. In our community, which is socially conservative, young people; women in particular, will not go on a data prepared with some form of birth control b/c that would be slutty. They will have sex, but being prepared is somehow considered wrong. I know it's not this way in other countries; I'm just curious about anyone else's thoughts. It took me well into my 20's to really feel good about myself sexually.

jester616 posted più di un anno fa

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Sinna_Hime_chan said:

What an interesting point Sweetie, yes...I could not agree more. From the time I became sexually active I wanted to be reponsible, my parents agreed, but instead of allowing me birth control, they tricked me and put me in treatment O.O - I have always believed the male should be reponsible while at the same time I felt females should be equaly and in order to protect themselves. I was a big advocate of condoms and safe sex always. I saw myself as a sexual being probably around 13... and even though I was promiscuous young {in my opinion}, I did NOT share any of my activities or discuss my personal life with anyone. I think I was still shy about talking about my own sex life-some things even AFTER marriage. I married young too. I suppose all that is chalked up to immaturity and screwy motives & beliefs, but I feel like "the look" should not be taught like that. It sends a signal & a message. The superficial comes with a price & a call to back that up by the knowledge & responsibility. It should be openly discussed.

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I've met many women who married quite young, either to get out of their parents' homes o to have sex in a way that fits their religious beliefs. Usually divorce is the result. This only troubles me because of the confusing messages we send about sexuality, not that there's anything wrong with getting a divorce when te know the relationship just isn't salvageable. Having a "good" sex life seems fairly important to most people, yet te wouldn't know it da the the way it's treated here. You're absolutely right that younger people know "the look" but are naive to the message it sends. Not blaming them; after all, when I was about 12, I dressed like a slob and I still got hit on da older guys. No one prepared me for that!

jester616 posted più di un anno fa

And then I felt like I did something wrong. Anyway, I'm just going on at this point. te sound like you've been through a lot, so it's fascinating Leggere what te have to say.

jester616 posted più di un anno fa

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I really do not believe in divorce due to my spiritual belief, and I married because I was not quite of that belief and we were living together and he decided we were living in sin and needed to stop having sex and live seperately o get married. I thought about Aids and how I really did not want that. I thought about the tax break! (awful, I know)... I went on a sabatical of sorts (though -like I detto my faith was not what it is today exactly), and I thought about what I really wanted to do. We got married almost immediately after that. No one marries with the thought they will divorce, I don't think (unless some goldigger, lol O.O). I never wanted to marry young. I actually wanted to wait until I was about 30. Plans have never gone according to my ideas. I did Amore him. It's a sad story... yes più than I think I woud care to share here. We actually talk every once in a while and I should check on him... but young and responsible-we tried, but it was so much playing house and being inlove with the idea of being inlove too.

Sinna_Hime_chan posted più di un anno fa

I went straight from my parents house to living with him and two roomates in an off-campus on campus college dorm. I am glad, if nothing else, that I have been able to spend the last few years living a lone and getting to learn all about that and what I truly want and can offer and want to.

Sinna_Hime_chan posted più di un anno fa

I am rambling too. I paid no heed to consequences of how I dressed o behaved. I do know that "rape" is not ever the other persons fault, however I dressed pretty provocative at times O////O & no one ever talked to me about things. My parents reasoning was "Because we detto so," and that, they felt should have been good enough.

Sinna_Hime_chan posted più di un anno fa

You're absolutely right that no one gets married with the expectation of getting divorced, but here, we concoct such an elaborate build up for the wedding day, and then don't talk about the giorno to giorno WORK that a long term relationship entails, and how it's not romantic at times. I've often joked that people shouldn't get married until they're at least 30, but hey? That will never fly! My sister married fairly young; it was disastrous, but now she's on really good terms with her ex. Her secondo marriage is much better. I moved in with my boyfriend after college. My parents weren't thrilled, but we eventually married, and we've been together for a total of 28 years. Yes there are times we want to kill each other! I wish I hadn't fallen into a serious relationship so soon, but here I am, so I try my best to council my own kids.

jester616 posted più di un anno fa

Jess, te are soooo right on the money. I know a person never can tell about what to expect, whether things will work out o not, no guarantee, even if they are willing to try everything, DO best efforts, and with all their heart. That idealism, looking back, in retrospect, I almost have to laugh- laugh o cry they say. I thought everything would workout. I wanted the perfect wedding. I thought I was willing through sickness and in health and in every problem and aspect to deal with it, as best I could, & thought I was prepared. Life throws real curve balls sometimes. Sad. Whenever I hear some of these people speak so idealistic I cringe at it. I think: hope it GREAT, but I DO believe it needs to be tempered da the responsibility te mentioned. Divorce SUCKS. It is a horrible-horrible thing where people suffer, especially if children are involved. It is always painful, and no one does want that. No one wants rape, no one wants to be abused... .

Sinna_Hime_chan posted più di un anno fa

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