Lately on the internet I seen a lot of Milah hate and I feel compelled to write another meta about her.
When Belle expresses a desire to leave her small town and go on adventures to see the world she's called a strong, independent, female character who is not afraid to go after what she wants. She's referred to as a girl that little girls watching should aspire to be.
When Ariel sings about wanting più from her life we sing along with her and empathise with her. She's a teenage girl who knows that what she has is not what she wants and again goes after it. She is many people's favourite Disney Princess despite running away and leaving behind all her responsibilities.
When Regina talks about how unhappy she is in her marriage and how much she wants to leave she is showered in sympathy and no-one really condemns her for the lengths she went to to escape it.
But when Milah wants exactly these things she is called a slut, bitch, whore, and is often referred to as the most despicable character in the show. Why is it that it is so dreadful for Milah to want these things and to make steps towards them but not for any of the other characters?
Why is Milah the most terrible person in the mostra when Regina, Rumplestiltskin, Hook have all done for worse things? Regina ruined he lives of thousands of people out of her own bitterness and anger. She ordered the murder of an entire village of people including children. She cursed an entire kingdom worth of people to a living hell to get back at one girl. She wanted revenge so much that she murdered her own father for it. Rumple was the Dark One. He gained that reputation for a reason. He destroyed the kind and innocent girl that Regina used to be, murdered people on a whim, and did any number of terrible things. Hook shot an innocent Belle because he wanted Rumple to feel the same pain that Rumple inflicted on him, and murdered any number of people. Milah did one horrible thing in abandoning her son and she's suddenly the worst sort of monster out there? No. I do not hold to that sort of logic.
So why is Milah treated like this?
The writers treated her like she was a bone for Rumple and Hook to fight over and the fan do the same. Every time we saw Milah we were looking at her through Rumple's eyes. We saw how Milah's actions affected Rumple and Bae but we never saw what Milah's life was like. Unlike with Regina we never saw a young, happy, innocent girl who's dreams of adventure were crushed da poverty, responsibility, the scorn of her village, and a husband she stopped loving. Milah wasn't dato the screen time to develop her into a nuanced character because from the writer's point of view she was a plot device. fan treat her the same way – “Hook is a horrible person because he ha rubato, stola another man's wife” is a sentiment I see everywhere and I find it sickening. To treat Milah like a piece of meat o property that can be stolen is to take away Milah's agency and nullifies the fact that she made those choices for her. Milah is not property, te cannot blame Hook for her decisions. You cannot steal a person so please stop saying this!
Let me get this straight right here though. Milah made a bad decision. She should not have left her son. Whatever about leaving Rumple, I support that entirely, but abandoning her son was a bad call and there were so many better ways to go about it. I am not defending what she did to Bae. But then again, there are parents who left their children a stone's throw away in every direction in Storybrooke. They all have different reasons and motivations and circumstances behind it but the action was still the same. Emma, Henry, Ruby, Grace, James to name a few were all left o abandoned. Yet Milah is the only parent who gets spat on for it.
The thing is, if Milah was unhappy in her marriage then I feel she had every right to leave it. What was she supposed to do? Stay and be miserable forever, even though she had an opportunity to leave? The way Rumple refers to her at times throughout the mostra makes me wonder if there wasn't even più aspects behind her leaving than we are getting. “You ha rubato, stola her from me.” “We have a son.” “You have responsibilities.” There is s subtle undertone here of how I imagine Rumple viewed Milah and how he would have treated her accordingly. First of all, saying “You ha rubato, stola her from me” after te have been told that she decided to leave te is extremely telling. Rumple doesn't not believe in Milah's agency. He disregards her choices and decisions. The successivo quote is possibly the most important: “We have a son”. Rumple detto this to a man who, he believes, forcibly kidnapped his wife with the intention of raping her and allowing his crew to do the same. Rumple's response to this was not “Please don't do this horrific thing to my wife. I Amore her. Please spare her.” He was not pleading for mercy for a woman he loved who was about to suffer a terrible fate. He didn't seem to be thinking of her at all – he was thinking of Bae. From this it seems to me that Rumple, although loving her, also viewed her as a wife and a mother before an actual person herself. A person with hopes and dreams and ambitions outside of wife and mother. People will probably say I'm Leggere into this too much but I don't think so. Everything in the mostra was deliberately put there. Everything's deliberate.
People often ask why she married him and hate on her for what she detto to him before he killed her. They hate it so much that people have admitted to cheering as Rumple killed his wife, the mother of his child. I can't be the only one uncomfortable with the implications of this?Milah told Rumple that she never loved him but is this really what te would expect from a woman devoid of Amore for her husband?
Rumpelstiltskin: Oh, Milah… I-I know, I know. I… I can’t say that I… I won’t be frightened. But… But this is the chance I’ve been waiting for…all my life. te know, I’ve lived under the shadow of my father’s actions for too long now.
Milah: Just because your father was a coward, it doesn’t mean te are.
Rumpelstiltskin: Oh, I know that. As do you. But to the world? Fighting in this war finally gives me the chance to prove that to everyone else.
Milah: Go. Be brave. Fight honourably.
Rumpelstiltskin: Oh, God, I Amore you.
Milah: I Amore you, too. When te return, we can start living the life we’ve always dreamed of.
Rumpelstiltskin: Yeah…
Milah: We can have a family.
Rumpelstiltskin: A family.
She did Amore him. She's glad to see him. She worries about him going away to war. She was happy at the idea of starting a family with him. But her Amore didn't last - sometimes it doesn't and there's nothing Milah could have done about that. Rumple killed her far daring to fall in Amore with another man and it makes me genuinely sick that Milah is portrayed as a two-dimensional villaness here and Rumple the wronged party. He killed his wife in a jealous fit, incapable of seeing her happy with another man and the fandom cheered him on.
I don't blame Milah for her angry reaction to Rumple's actions on the front. Throughout history war cowards have gotten a bad reputation and Rumple's decision not to fight ruined their lives. To quote the wonderful thebettertoloveyouwith on Tumblr who detto it better than I ever will - As a woman and his wife, Milah would have been held jointly responsible for whatever Rumple detto o did and her opinion on the matter would have meant successivo to nothing in the eyes of the greater community. To be the wife of a coward was just as bad as to be a coward and it came with all sorts of lovely benefits, such as being poverty stricken, cut off from the rest of the community etc. When Milah detto she wished he had died, it was because a dead war hero was più acceptable than a surviving coward. Yes, it is a cruel thing to say, but again, the sympathy of any scene involving Milah never lies with Milah. We saw Rumple at the front, but not Milah as a new Mother, scared of her new role and probably relying on the help of widows in the community, who would have left the secondo Rumple’s actions condemned the family. We only ever saw Rumple’s plight, not hers and her anger towards him was fully understandable.
Also when Rumple crippled himself he rendered himself unable for physical manual labour. Who would have had to pick up that slack? Milah. Milah as well as doing all the wifely duties of cooking, cleaning sewing, taking care of the livestock and a newborn baby would have had to do things like fetch pails of water from the well everyday, thatch the roof, shovel snow, go into town everyday and haggle with scornful shopkeepers. It's hard enough being a housewife peasant but knowing that her husband willingly crippled himself and forced all this extra work on her? It must have been absolutely back breaking, exhausting work and she did it for seven years.
So to recap: Milah was trapped in an unhappy, almost toxic, marriage with no way of escaping it other than to run away because Rumple (for reasons I can't understand o even guess at) refused to leave the village and their reputation behind them. In that village Milah had no support system, no Friends to rely on, no money, no respect and Rumple refused to sposta to a village where they would get those things. Things which, incidentally, they relied on for survival. They must have been scraping da on pity and as proud as Milah is that would have chafed at her constantly.
I wish there hadn't been a child involved, and if that were the case I can honestly say I would have done the same thing. In a heartbeat.
When Regina talks about how unhappy she is in her marriage and how much she wants to leave she is showered in sympathy and no-one really condemns her for the lengths she went to to escape it.
But when Milah wants exactly these things she is called a slut, bitch, whore, and is often referred to as the most despicable character in the show. Why is it that it is so dreadful for Milah to want these things and to make steps towards them but not for any of the other characters?
Why is Milah the most terrible person in the mostra when Regina, Rumplestiltskin, Hook have all done for worse things? Regina ruined he lives of thousands of people out of her own bitterness and anger. She ordered the murder of an entire village of people including children. She cursed an entire kingdom worth of people to a living hell to get back at one girl. She wanted revenge so much that she murdered her own father for it. Rumple was the Dark One. He gained that reputation for a reason. He destroyed the kind and innocent girl that Regina used to be, murdered people on a whim, and did any number of terrible things. Hook shot an innocent Belle because he wanted Rumple to feel the same pain that Rumple inflicted on him, and murdered any number of people. Milah did one horrible thing in abandoning her son and she's suddenly the worst sort of monster out there? No. I do not hold to that sort of logic.
So why is Milah treated like this?
The writers treated her like she was a bone for Rumple and Hook to fight over and the fan do the same. Every time we saw Milah we were looking at her through Rumple's eyes. We saw how Milah's actions affected Rumple and Bae but we never saw what Milah's life was like. Unlike with Regina we never saw a young, happy, innocent girl who's dreams of adventure were crushed da poverty, responsibility, the scorn of her village, and a husband she stopped loving. Milah wasn't dato the screen time to develop her into a nuanced character because from the writer's point of view she was a plot device. fan treat her the same way – “Hook is a horrible person because he ha rubato, stola another man's wife” is a sentiment I see everywhere and I find it sickening. To treat Milah like a piece of meat o property that can be stolen is to take away Milah's agency and nullifies the fact that she made those choices for her. Milah is not property, te cannot blame Hook for her decisions. You cannot steal a person so please stop saying this!
Let me get this straight right here though. Milah made a bad decision. She should not have left her son. Whatever about leaving Rumple, I support that entirely, but abandoning her son was a bad call and there were so many better ways to go about it. I am not defending what she did to Bae. But then again, there are parents who left their children a stone's throw away in every direction in Storybrooke. They all have different reasons and motivations and circumstances behind it but the action was still the same. Emma, Henry, Ruby, Grace, James to name a few were all left o abandoned. Yet Milah is the only parent who gets spat on for it.
The thing is, if Milah was unhappy in her marriage then I feel she had every right to leave it. What was she supposed to do? Stay and be miserable forever, even though she had an opportunity to leave? The way Rumple refers to her at times throughout the mostra makes me wonder if there wasn't even più aspects behind her leaving than we are getting. “You ha rubato, stola her from me.” “We have a son.” “You have responsibilities.” There is s subtle undertone here of how I imagine Rumple viewed Milah and how he would have treated her accordingly. First of all, saying “You ha rubato, stola her from me” after te have been told that she decided to leave te is extremely telling. Rumple doesn't not believe in Milah's agency. He disregards her choices and decisions. The successivo quote is possibly the most important: “We have a son”. Rumple detto this to a man who, he believes, forcibly kidnapped his wife with the intention of raping her and allowing his crew to do the same. Rumple's response to this was not “Please don't do this horrific thing to my wife. I Amore her. Please spare her.” He was not pleading for mercy for a woman he loved who was about to suffer a terrible fate. He didn't seem to be thinking of her at all – he was thinking of Bae. From this it seems to me that Rumple, although loving her, also viewed her as a wife and a mother before an actual person herself. A person with hopes and dreams and ambitions outside of wife and mother. People will probably say I'm Leggere into this too much but I don't think so. Everything in the mostra was deliberately put there. Everything's deliberate.
People often ask why she married him and hate on her for what she detto to him before he killed her. They hate it so much that people have admitted to cheering as Rumple killed his wife, the mother of his child. I can't be the only one uncomfortable with the implications of this?Milah told Rumple that she never loved him but is this really what te would expect from a woman devoid of Amore for her husband?
Rumpelstiltskin: Oh, Milah… I-I know, I know. I… I can’t say that I… I won’t be frightened. But… But this is the chance I’ve been waiting for…all my life. te know, I’ve lived under the shadow of my father’s actions for too long now.
Milah: Just because your father was a coward, it doesn’t mean te are.
Rumpelstiltskin: Oh, I know that. As do you. But to the world? Fighting in this war finally gives me the chance to prove that to everyone else.
Milah: Go. Be brave. Fight honourably.
Rumpelstiltskin: Oh, God, I Amore you.
Milah: I Amore you, too. When te return, we can start living the life we’ve always dreamed of.
Rumpelstiltskin: Yeah…
Milah: We can have a family.
Rumpelstiltskin: A family.
She did Amore him. She's glad to see him. She worries about him going away to war. She was happy at the idea of starting a family with him. But her Amore didn't last - sometimes it doesn't and there's nothing Milah could have done about that. Rumple killed her far daring to fall in Amore with another man and it makes me genuinely sick that Milah is portrayed as a two-dimensional villaness here and Rumple the wronged party. He killed his wife in a jealous fit, incapable of seeing her happy with another man and the fandom cheered him on.
I don't blame Milah for her angry reaction to Rumple's actions on the front. Throughout history war cowards have gotten a bad reputation and Rumple's decision not to fight ruined their lives. To quote the wonderful thebettertoloveyouwith on Tumblr who detto it better than I ever will - As a woman and his wife, Milah would have been held jointly responsible for whatever Rumple detto o did and her opinion on the matter would have meant successivo to nothing in the eyes of the greater community. To be the wife of a coward was just as bad as to be a coward and it came with all sorts of lovely benefits, such as being poverty stricken, cut off from the rest of the community etc. When Milah detto she wished he had died, it was because a dead war hero was più acceptable than a surviving coward. Yes, it is a cruel thing to say, but again, the sympathy of any scene involving Milah never lies with Milah. We saw Rumple at the front, but not Milah as a new Mother, scared of her new role and probably relying on the help of widows in the community, who would have left the secondo Rumple’s actions condemned the family. We only ever saw Rumple’s plight, not hers and her anger towards him was fully understandable.
Also when Rumple crippled himself he rendered himself unable for physical manual labour. Who would have had to pick up that slack? Milah. Milah as well as doing all the wifely duties of cooking, cleaning sewing, taking care of the livestock and a newborn baby would have had to do things like fetch pails of water from the well everyday, thatch the roof, shovel snow, go into town everyday and haggle with scornful shopkeepers. It's hard enough being a housewife peasant but knowing that her husband willingly crippled himself and forced all this extra work on her? It must have been absolutely back breaking, exhausting work and she did it for seven years.
So to recap: Milah was trapped in an unhappy, almost toxic, marriage with no way of escaping it other than to run away because Rumple (for reasons I can't understand o even guess at) refused to leave the village and their reputation behind them. In that village Milah had no support system, no Friends to rely on, no money, no respect and Rumple refused to sposta to a village where they would get those things. Things which, incidentally, they relied on for survival. They must have been scraping da on pity and as proud as Milah is that would have chafed at her constantly.
I wish there hadn't been a child involved, and if that were the case I can honestly say I would have done the same thing. In a heartbeat.
