Some of the old ways of dating could be use an upgrade. Welcome 2014 with these new and improved rules!
For most of us, the best--and usually our first--source of our dating consigli is our family. We rely on the experiences and wise words of Mom, Sister, and in some cases even Grandmother, for the do's and don'ts of boys and relationships. But as years pass by, it might be time to rule out some of Mom's and Grandma's old (and old-fashioned) rules on dating and come up with reasonable guidelines that appeal to più modern minds.
The Old Way:
~Date only boys who belong to your cerchio of friends.
The New Way:
~While there is some comfort in going out with guys you've known since grade school, remember that the whole point is dating is to get to know new people. The spirit of the new decade is overcoming boundaries, and a great way to take part in it is da dating outside your usual "type" o group. For instance, just because you're a computer geek, it doesn't mean that te can't go out with a cute pallacanestro, basket player. All it takes is a little confident. If Troy and Gabriella from High School Musical o Rachel and Finn from Glee were able to do it, why can't you?
The Old Way:
~Wait da the phone for him to call to ask te out.
The New Way:
~The old saying, "Never call a boy first", may have been right during your grandmother's time, but with all the ways of communication available now, it seems silly not to drop him any hints that you're interested. Text him, chat him over Yahoo Messenger, leave a message on his Facebook Wall, o mention him on Twitter. te don't have to ask him out straight up if you're not comfortable with it, but it's okay to remind him that you're around if he wants to hang out.
The Old Way:
~Ask him to pick te up from your house.
The New Way:
~Sure, there's still some merit to having a guy mostra up at your doorstep, then drop te off after the data for a possible Hollywood-style goodnight kiss. But there's also no reason why te can't meet him at a public place, like the restaurant where te plan to have cena o the bowling alley where te intended to hang out. Arriving and leaving on your own saves time---and it helps te avoid an awkward drive home if the data goes sour.
The Old Way:
~Just have a cena and watch movie.
The New Way:
~It's not the 50's anymore---dating doesn't have to mean cena and movie all the time. Though it's great to share a meal and see a cool flick, there are tons of other fun activities te can do together without spending too much like playing at the park, bowling, ice skating and many more. te can even bring some mutual Friends along to avoid any uncomfortable first-date experience moments. avvolgere up the giorno (or night) at a quiet coffee negozio so te can grab a bite, talk about your adventures together, and get to know each other in peace.
The Old Way:
~Sit pretty and let him make all the decisions.
The New Way:
~The days when girls were not much più than decoration for the cena tavolo are long gone. Most of the guys like girls who think for themselves, and who can churn out più than just, "Anywhere te want, it's up to you" in response to the question, "So, where do te want to go?" Feel free to suggest a restaurant te Amore o an activity te find interesting. Your data will appreciate your sharing the pressure of decision-making and will respect te più for it.
The Old Way:
~Turn away all his compliments so te won't seem too eager o mayabang.
The New Way:
~One of the most common compliments among guys is that girl's can't seem to take a compliment. There's no need for te to bring yourself down o tell him, "You're just saying that." Accept his praise with grace! Nine times out of 10, he's telling the truth and te know it. A simple "Thank you" will mostra that you're confident and comfortable with your self---plus, he'll appreciate being thanked for noticing how nice te look in your dress o how much pretty te are.
The Old Way:
~Introduce your data to your parents first.
The New Way:
~While your parents' opinions definitely matter, putting your guy in the hot sede, sedile too soon exerts unnecessary pressure on the relationship. A guy who doesn't know te that well may not yet be ready for your Mom's loaded statements and your Dad's underhanded threats. It's best to wait for things to become serious before bringing him home to your family. It also helps te avoid all the awkward domande when things end before they can truly begin.
The Old Way:
~Expect fireworks and romance on a one-on-one date.
The New Way:
~These days, there's a huge difference between a friendly date and a date-date. A guy won't break out the flowers, chocolates, and sweet gestures right away. Chances are, he'll call it "hanging out" and fall a few notches sort of The Perfect Gentleman In Your Head. The modern girl knows not to expect too much from a single date---and knows that chemistry and attraction can never be forced.
The Classics:
While some rules evolved overtime, there are still etched in the stone.
1.Be your self:
~Put your best foot forward, but make sure te stay true to who te are. Never lie to impress.
2.Be on time:
~We know te want to be fashionably late, but keeping him waiting any longer than 15 minuti is just a plain rude.
3.Wear an appropriate amount of makeup:
~It's a date, not a Halloween party! Simplicity is the key.
4.Don't spend the data texting, tweeting, o Facebooking:
~Focus your attention on your data and leave the social networking for later!
5.Avoid talking about other boys:
~He especially doesn't want to hear about how much te misses your ex o how cute o handsome your classmate o neighbor is.
6.Be a good listener:
~It's okay to talk about yourself, but make sure to ask him domande and listen to his stories as well.
7.Don't nag:
~He'll appreciate if te call o text a few days after the data to thank him and say te had fun, but don't harass him the successivo week o panic if he doesn't respond immediately.
8.Don't lead him on:
~If te realize you're not as interested in him as te thought, politely let him know when he asks te out again. It may upset him at first, but he'll surely appreciate your honestly in the long run.
